This past weeks, I just got a heart-break story from my best friend.
She is marriage with one child for 5 years.
She just found out that her marriage would fall in to pieces.
She really couldn’t handle it anymore.
Only for 3 months out of 5 years, she really felt the beauty of marriage life.
I wouldn’t say it’s her fault or his fault. There would be no one to blame.
And this afternoon, I just watched ‘Brothers and Sisters’. It’s also about marriage life.
Kevin Walker just found out that his husband, Scotty, cheated on him.
I don’t want to discuss about affair issue, but the marriage issue itself.
Marriage is really a complicated things.
It gets more complicated when two immature people get together.
Marriage is a problem.
Why I would say it is a problem?
When there’s nothing happen, the wind blows smooth to our faces, yes, that’s not a problem.
But when there is friction, the problems start!
You won’t guarantee that there will be no friction.
It’s only happen in hm… fairytale? I think fairytale does had friction too though.
When two people decided to entered the marriage life, it’s mean that they are entering the blending process and becoming one.
The blending process is not as easy as you think. I would say it’s like when you want to mixed water with oil. Hard it is!
There are two characters, two ego, two needs, two behaviors, two different person!
I’m no expertise in this field, I’m not married yet, but this is what I could come up with.
Marriage is only for two mature adult people who are willing to learn, respect, love, forgive and commit to each other.
Who are able to put-a-side their own ego and works out for the good of their marriage.
Who are fully committed with their heart, mind, body and soul for their spouse.
Who are open for communication with one and other.
Who have the same value and on the same page.
Trust. Loyal. Truth. Love. Forgive. Respect. Commit.
You really don’t want ‘to buy a cat in a sack’.
You really don’t want to regret it.
Make sure, you take quite a long journey figuring out who’s the (real) man you’re going to marry.
I’m not frightening you with all of these.
But make sure, you and your spouse are really ready to jump in the ‘new phase of troubles’ in life.
Marriage is also the sweetest thing in our life.
Do cherish it!
PS: It takes two to tango!